So like I am extremely sick tonight and I was in bed IMing on facebook to a friend. I am also going through man drama with my boyfriend. My boyfriend are always breaking up and making up so I hardly mention my issues to friends now because I KNOW they must be sick of it. So if they ask about issues, I tell them, but I end it with “But there is no one to blame but myself” so that they know I am not looking for some sympathy or analysis. So that happened tonight with my friend on IM and after he heard the issue was like “YOU ARE ACTING LAME. YOU REMIND ME OF LINDSAY LOHAN AND SAMANTHA RONSON. STOP DREAMING”. I was like ‘wtf???” Because there was no need to be that way with me when I am soooo sick, sad, and obviously feeling vulnerable. So I asked him to not use such blunt wording because I am feeling sensitive today and sad and it was hurting me more to hear my friend say that when I would NEVER call a friend lame, even if they are doing something unwise. So he wrote back “I GET IT FROM MY PARENTS AND THIS IS HOW I AM AND SO I GUESS I WILL NOT HELP YOU WITH THIS SITUATION ANYMORE”………WTF??? Like if your friends are feeling really sick and have been cryin all night from the pain and the drama, would you be so blunt or would you adjust your wording in order to get the point across without hurting your friend? I tried to tell him it was hurting me and obviously he is not backing down on how he likes to talk to people. He also said “I WOULD NEVER MAKE THOSE MISTAKES IN A RELATIONSHIP” but he has NEVER fallen in love or dated anyone and i told him to not judge me like this. WHAT DO I DO??? DO I DUMP HIM OR JUST DISTANCE MYSELF FROM HIM AND NOT TALK ANYMORE?
Get rid of him he is not good for you
Ummmmm there is a difference between blunt and just plain rude! These sort of comments aren’t “blunt”! Blunt means speaking the truth – not saying, “you are lame and I can’t help you with your problems anymore.” – that just shows he’s not very CARING, and that’s a totally different thing! The only thing I think that qualifies as a “blunt” here is the part about “stop dreaming” – but it doesn’t sound like he even meant that in a sincere, trying-to-be-helpful way. Yeah, he just sounds rude to me.
I feel like blunt people often do say things that they have to apologize for later. If he comes back to you saying, omg I’m sorry, that was so rude… then I’d think about keeping him. I have a really blunt girlfriend, and she is a really great, loyal friend, I’m so glad to have her, and if she ever does say something offensive – which she sometimes does – she apologizes as soon as she figures out she hurt somebody. The point is, she cares. It sounds like this guy just doesn’t have enough energy to care for you as a friend, and that’s not okay! From what I’ve heard here, I’d dump him!
Good luck!!